Every Now and Then I Fall Apart


Every Now and Then I Fall Apart

I brought this lovely piece of art to remind me ... take each day as it comes ... and enjoy life!

Art credit by John Stammers


Menopause is one of life’s most significant transitions—a journey every woman will embark on, yet one that often feels isolating and misunderstood. The phrase "Every now and then I fall apart" resonates deeply during this time, not just because of its association with emotional moments but also because it perfectly captures the unpredictable nature of this phase. From fluctuating hormones to emotional upheavals and physical changes, menopause can leave even the strongest women feeling like their world is spinning out of control.  

Understanding the Change  

Menopause is not a single event but a gradual process. Perimenopause, the lead-up to menopause, can last several years, during which your hormone levels—particularly oestrogen and progesterone—fluctuate dramatically. This hormonal rollercoaster can cause symptoms like hot flashes, night sweats, mood swings, and irregular periods. It’s a time of uncertainty, where one moment you feel fine, and the next, you’re falling apart emotionally, mentally, or physically.  While the experience is deeply personal, it’s essential to remember that you’re not alone. Millions of women have navigated this terrain before you, and many are walking it alongside you.  

The Emotional Ride 

Hormonal shifts during menopause can heighten emotions. One minute, you’re laughing with friends, and the next, you’re in tears over a seemingly minor issue. It’s not uncommon to feel like you’re losing control of your emotions. Anxiety and even bouts of depression may also creep in, leaving you questioning your resilience.  

Falling apart, however, doesn’t mean you’re broken. It’s your body signalling that it’s undergoing a massive transformation—a shedding of the old to make way for the new. In this process, self-compassion is your greatest ally. Give yourself permission to feel everything without judgment.  

Coping Mechanisms That Empower 

1. Find Your Community: Talk to other women who are going through menopause or have been there. Sharing experiences can be cathartic and offer valuable insights.  

2. Mind Your Body: Regular exercise, a balanced diet, and sufficient hydration can help mitigate some symptoms. Yoga, walking, and strength training are particularly beneficial.  

3. Sleep Hygiene: Menopause often disrupts sleep, but good sleep habits—like maintaining a regular bedtime and creating a calming bedtime routine—can make a difference.  

4. Seek Professional Help: Don’t hesitate to consult a healthcare professional about severe symptoms. This means if symptoms are affecting your everyday activities of living then you just might need a bit of help. Hormone replacement therapy (HRT) or menopause hormone treatment (MHT), non-hormonal treatments, or natural remedies might be options for you.  

5. Mindfulness Practices: Meditation, journaling, and breathing exercises can help manage stress and ground you during emotional upheavals.  I will blog more on these as time goes by.

And yes, we must … REFRAME Falling Apart 

Instead of viewing moments of “falling apart” as weakness, see them as an opportunity to rebuild. Menopause marks the end of one phase but also the beginning of another—a time to redefine yourself. It’s a chance to prioritize your needs, explore new interests, and embrace the wisdom that comes with this stage of life.  

Remember, falling apart is often the first step to coming back together in a stronger, more authentic form. You are not just surviving this transition; you are transforming.  

Every now and then, you may fall apart—but it’s in these moments that you’re reminded of your resilience, your capacity for growth, and the beauty of rediscovery. Embrace the journey—it’s uniquely yours.

if you are needing guidance or coaching around the menopause contact me here.

Camille 


Embrace every moment 


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